I am going through a deep introspection now, more so because I am becoming more judgmental, more volatile and less cool. All these days I believed that I am working on them and on the verge of concurring all the evils, but that does not really seem right. I believed strongly a saying that Dr. Deepak Chopra said "What others says about you is actually all about them and NOT about you at all - so it is none of your business. Leave others judgement of you to themselves only and don't get purturbed". I tell this to myself many times, but at the same time, I often fall entrapped to the "what people will say". Hope some day I will concur this and will stay fearless of others judgment on me..
Recently somebody visited our house, and in a harmless sort of conversation (this is what I thought), she got offended and walked off. It got ugly, and I could not comprehend what would have triggered that. I realized later that my unwanted advise is what made her mad. Now I am beginning to wonder whether I have concurred over any of my annoying habits... In the first place I should NOT advise anyone, second I should not get upset because someone gets upset on me. It took me one full day to realize that it is me who is at fault (how difficult is that to accept your own mistake:)). I should be more resilient and steer clear from the advise zone. At the same time, I also learnt a new lesson and that is: If you advise, people tend to think that you are showing the perfect side of your life - which is far from perfect. Here, I just remembered a popular TV show in this context - "according to Jim". Here the lady of the house, Cheryl is always concerned about her near and dear ones and would offer help (read advise) on any matter. Now that made people around her revolt and she decided to stop offering her advise on anything (Can you believe? She was actually successful in doing so!!). After sometimes, the husband got so bored that he begged her to be her old self and offer free advises. But this is just a TV serial - everything does not have happy ending like this, so folks refrain from advising people, more so, when the other person believes that s/he is perfect....
Recently somebody visited our house, and in a harmless sort of conversation (this is what I thought), she got offended and walked off. It got ugly, and I could not comprehend what would have triggered that. I realized later that my unwanted advise is what made her mad. Now I am beginning to wonder whether I have concurred over any of my annoying habits... In the first place I should NOT advise anyone, second I should not get upset because someone gets upset on me. It took me one full day to realize that it is me who is at fault (how difficult is that to accept your own mistake:)). I should be more resilient and steer clear from the advise zone. At the same time, I also learnt a new lesson and that is: If you advise, people tend to think that you are showing the perfect side of your life - which is far from perfect. Here, I just remembered a popular TV show in this context - "according to Jim". Here the lady of the house, Cheryl is always concerned about her near and dear ones and would offer help (read advise) on any matter. Now that made people around her revolt and she decided to stop offering her advise on anything (Can you believe? She was actually successful in doing so!!). After sometimes, the husband got so bored that he begged her to be her old self and offer free advises. But this is just a TV serial - everything does not have happy ending like this, so folks refrain from advising people, more so, when the other person believes that s/he is perfect....
