Although there are many many days with much more overwhelming feelings, today I am penning it down, because I am determined to. People say looking at the kids "Oh how time flies!! Look at your daughter how grown up she is - good for you..". But little do they know that raising a child for a working mother involves so much struggle every single hour!! By the way my princess is 3 and half year old and her name is Ada.
My story goes like this:
Morning: Got up at 6.30 AM with a bad back pain. Maid comes, I went and opened the door, instructed her to cook for daughter's lunch box. I then went on warm a tall glass of water for drinkng with lemon juice. In between I went back and forth, pack curd with sugar for Ada's lunch, pack her a sandwich for evening snack, quickly cut an apple for morning 10.30 AM snack while sipping lemon water. Now I have to go for the additional glasses of water, so that I get pressure for potty. Done! Maid has already made tea, just took a small break to drink tea. Whoa, got pressure, got to go to toilet. Done! Time is already 7.30 AM. Checking on Ada, yeah she is sleeping like an angel! The other maid has not come today, so I have to water plants!
Watering before she gets up, done! Time now 7.45 AM. Now I have to wake her up else she will be late for breakfast....
Now Ada is up and asking for her favorite cake. Me: "No Mama, cant have cake today, there is no cake at home". Ada: "You told me we will go and buy one today". Me: "OK, we can quickly go and buy one". Now checking my purse. Yesterday, drew some cash but only 2000 rupees denominations... Me thinking there is just one shop out there who can give me change. Thinking in my mind, I need change too. My cook said there is no onion, I have to buy some today. Yesterday's shopkeeper said he will not give change for 2000 rupees. Me: "Ada get ready got to go to that shop change money and get some cake". Ada "OK mumma". Slowly comes wears her shoes... "Mumma, I cant wear this shoe, please make me wear it". Me: "OK will do it". We both locked home, I took the car keys so that I can give it for washing(thursdays are car cleaning days) started for the shop. Did not see the cleaning boy, so just walked. It took us 15 mins instead of 10 because Ada is holding my thigh and not moving. Now got the money changed, bought milk packets and cake. Now walking back home. Just near my home, there is a fruit seller. We bought some mangoes and bananas and heading for home.
Checking the clock, oh my god, it is already 8.30 AM... Will I have time for some quick pranayama... No may be not now. If I get ready before 9.00 AM then may be. Now checking what needs to be packed for Ada's school. I have to pack her 2 dresses, 2 pairs of socks, 2 pants, 2 bedsheets, wipe cloth, long pants, powder, odomus, comb... Done, now putting in her basket. Checking her water bottle, already very dirty, so cleaned it filled some water. Ada: "Mumma, can you please open this cake". I quickly opened it and then she said, she wants eat it on her study table. I looked at the table, it is too dusty, so picked up the dusting cloth, cleaned it, so that she can eat. Meanwhile I go back to pack my lunch and breakfast. Got to cut cucumbers, carrots (need to eat salads, because recently I had a series of health issues). Pack chole also done.. Checking time, 8.45 AM. Saw Ada neebling on a straw. I asked her to put it down, so I can wash it for her. Cleaned the straw returned it to her. Saw Ada holding potty. This is what is happening for the last one year. There is a long story about it. I saw she soiled her pants. Quickly removed the pant put her in a fresh one. Looked into her eyes, asked will you potty now? She said no, give me some mango and after that I will do potty. So went ahead, peeled and cut a ripe mango, put the plate in front of her and asked her to eat. She said, no mumma, can you please feed me? I clenched my teeth and said OK. While feeding her, I am still going back and forth, charging my phone, packing my lunch and doing other mundane jobs. Now I finished dusting the reaining tables also, where she generally puts her hands on. She puts her hand in her mouth all the time. Now it is 9 AM. My god, I have not brushed, not taken bath neither has Ada done any of that.Generally at 9.00, we start from home. Since it is school break she can reach school by 9.30 AM. But let me try and put her in potty and see what happens. She sat, asked me to sing and tell her story, 10 minutes, nothing happened. Me now very angry, sprayed water over her to clean, lifted a 16 KG child in my two arms, took her to bathroom. At this she started crying. "Adar khaba" (she needs adar all the time). Now I am very angry, gave her bath, cleaned her feet, brushed her teeth, wiped her and made her wear dress, pants and socks, she is still crying..... Now it is 9.15 AM. I have now 5 mins to comb my hair, brush my teeth and take bath and get ready. I went to bathroom amidst her constant crying. Got ready at about 9.25AM, she is still crying, did little bit "adar", now we are all set for school. Time now 9.30 AM. Drove super fast, so that I get a parking spot. Dropping her at school was smooth, no crying. Got back to office(office in opposite direction from school) at 9.55 AM. The car tyre pressue is low in the front wheel, and car is running out gas. May be do it some other time. Punched in and back in office. Today I have skill development meeting at 11 AM, Ph.D AcSIR screening committee meeting at 11.30 AM and a DAC (Doctoral Advisory committee) meeting for one of my students at 12 PM, a meeting at 11 AM, got to an annual report, got to supervise a sequencing, do some annotation for collaborative work. Toner of the printer is down, so students keep coming to my office for printout, while I hit the key board typing this story. Also had two quick meetings, signing two OMs (office meorandums) while I am still typing. Now it is 11.05 AM, time for the meeting... Got to go.
Fast forward, now it is 3.15 PM, meetings are over, lunch is over, little bit of work is over, questions and answers for Sequencing is over, 2 students meetings are over, back is still complaining....
4.30 PM, time to go pick up Ada. I started at 4.30 reached in school near about 5 PM, the school handed me over a home work book chiding me on why I did not collect it earlier.. I had sme argument with them and finally at 5.15, the child is in the car. I straight away headed to office, was checking team viewer for a genome assembly with an ICAR lab. At 6.20 PM, Ada is restless to go home. So packed up, reached home at 6.30 PM. Karate class today. Made her wear her Karate uniform, took her to the ground. Meanwhile, sneaked out to buy onion and then back sitting near the waiting area. At 7.45 PM Karate class is over. We both are back home, she wants to do her homework, so we sat for a while. One pae is done. Now time now for dinner. I feed her rice, dal, omlette veggies for about 30 mins. I am terribly hungry, had some veggies and curries and one dosa. 9.45 PM, time to sleep. Slept like a log till 6.00 AM when the door bell rang. Happy to be alive and yes the back pain is gone!!! Thanks to my eating only salad.....
My story goes like this:
Morning: Got up at 6.30 AM with a bad back pain. Maid comes, I went and opened the door, instructed her to cook for daughter's lunch box. I then went on warm a tall glass of water for drinkng with lemon juice. In between I went back and forth, pack curd with sugar for Ada's lunch, pack her a sandwich for evening snack, quickly cut an apple for morning 10.30 AM snack while sipping lemon water. Now I have to go for the additional glasses of water, so that I get pressure for potty. Done! Maid has already made tea, just took a small break to drink tea. Whoa, got pressure, got to go to toilet. Done! Time is already 7.30 AM. Checking on Ada, yeah she is sleeping like an angel! The other maid has not come today, so I have to water plants!
Watering before she gets up, done! Time now 7.45 AM. Now I have to wake her up else she will be late for breakfast....
Now Ada is up and asking for her favorite cake. Me: "No Mama, cant have cake today, there is no cake at home". Ada: "You told me we will go and buy one today". Me: "OK, we can quickly go and buy one". Now checking my purse. Yesterday, drew some cash but only 2000 rupees denominations... Me thinking there is just one shop out there who can give me change. Thinking in my mind, I need change too. My cook said there is no onion, I have to buy some today. Yesterday's shopkeeper said he will not give change for 2000 rupees. Me: "Ada get ready got to go to that shop change money and get some cake". Ada "OK mumma". Slowly comes wears her shoes... "Mumma, I cant wear this shoe, please make me wear it". Me: "OK will do it". We both locked home, I took the car keys so that I can give it for washing(thursdays are car cleaning days) started for the shop. Did not see the cleaning boy, so just walked. It took us 15 mins instead of 10 because Ada is holding my thigh and not moving. Now got the money changed, bought milk packets and cake. Now walking back home. Just near my home, there is a fruit seller. We bought some mangoes and bananas and heading for home.
Checking the clock, oh my god, it is already 8.30 AM... Will I have time for some quick pranayama... No may be not now. If I get ready before 9.00 AM then may be. Now checking what needs to be packed for Ada's school. I have to pack her 2 dresses, 2 pairs of socks, 2 pants, 2 bedsheets, wipe cloth, long pants, powder, odomus, comb... Done, now putting in her basket. Checking her water bottle, already very dirty, so cleaned it filled some water. Ada: "Mumma, can you please open this cake". I quickly opened it and then she said, she wants eat it on her study table. I looked at the table, it is too dusty, so picked up the dusting cloth, cleaned it, so that she can eat. Meanwhile I go back to pack my lunch and breakfast. Got to cut cucumbers, carrots (need to eat salads, because recently I had a series of health issues). Pack chole also done.. Checking time, 8.45 AM. Saw Ada neebling on a straw. I asked her to put it down, so I can wash it for her. Cleaned the straw returned it to her. Saw Ada holding potty. This is what is happening for the last one year. There is a long story about it. I saw she soiled her pants. Quickly removed the pant put her in a fresh one. Looked into her eyes, asked will you potty now? She said no, give me some mango and after that I will do potty. So went ahead, peeled and cut a ripe mango, put the plate in front of her and asked her to eat. She said, no mumma, can you please feed me? I clenched my teeth and said OK. While feeding her, I am still going back and forth, charging my phone, packing my lunch and doing other mundane jobs. Now I finished dusting the reaining tables also, where she generally puts her hands on. She puts her hand in her mouth all the time. Now it is 9 AM. My god, I have not brushed, not taken bath neither has Ada done any of that.Generally at 9.00, we start from home. Since it is school break she can reach school by 9.30 AM. But let me try and put her in potty and see what happens. She sat, asked me to sing and tell her story, 10 minutes, nothing happened. Me now very angry, sprayed water over her to clean, lifted a 16 KG child in my two arms, took her to bathroom. At this she started crying. "Adar khaba" (she needs adar all the time). Now I am very angry, gave her bath, cleaned her feet, brushed her teeth, wiped her and made her wear dress, pants and socks, she is still crying..... Now it is 9.15 AM. I have now 5 mins to comb my hair, brush my teeth and take bath and get ready. I went to bathroom amidst her constant crying. Got ready at about 9.25AM, she is still crying, did little bit "adar", now we are all set for school. Time now 9.30 AM. Drove super fast, so that I get a parking spot. Dropping her at school was smooth, no crying. Got back to office(office in opposite direction from school) at 9.55 AM. The car tyre pressue is low in the front wheel, and car is running out gas. May be do it some other time. Punched in and back in office. Today I have skill development meeting at 11 AM, Ph.D AcSIR screening committee meeting at 11.30 AM and a DAC (Doctoral Advisory committee) meeting for one of my students at 12 PM, a meeting at 11 AM, got to an annual report, got to supervise a sequencing, do some annotation for collaborative work. Toner of the printer is down, so students keep coming to my office for printout, while I hit the key board typing this story. Also had two quick meetings, signing two OMs (office meorandums) while I am still typing. Now it is 11.05 AM, time for the meeting... Got to go.
Fast forward, now it is 3.15 PM, meetings are over, lunch is over, little bit of work is over, questions and answers for Sequencing is over, 2 students meetings are over, back is still complaining....
4.30 PM, time to go pick up Ada. I started at 4.30 reached in school near about 5 PM, the school handed me over a home work book chiding me on why I did not collect it earlier.. I had sme argument with them and finally at 5.15, the child is in the car. I straight away headed to office, was checking team viewer for a genome assembly with an ICAR lab. At 6.20 PM, Ada is restless to go home. So packed up, reached home at 6.30 PM. Karate class today. Made her wear her Karate uniform, took her to the ground. Meanwhile, sneaked out to buy onion and then back sitting near the waiting area. At 7.45 PM Karate class is over. We both are back home, she wants to do her homework, so we sat for a while. One pae is done. Now time now for dinner. I feed her rice, dal, omlette veggies for about 30 mins. I am terribly hungry, had some veggies and curries and one dosa. 9.45 PM, time to sleep. Slept like a log till 6.00 AM when the door bell rang. Happy to be alive and yes the back pain is gone!!! Thanks to my eating only salad.....
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