We often speculate things, get worried, and the cycle continues. This stems from overthinking and assessing risks unnecessarily.
This year, personally, has been very eventful for my family. Even in my relaxed state, I would worry about my daughter's grades, her spelling woes, and her constant struggle to keep up with her studies. Changing school was almost certainly on the cards. But change to where? We were looking for CBSE schools because that was the most obvious option. In south Kolkata, although there are many schools are there, but we deliberately chose few of them including the DPS Ruby park. Now the problems with these schools are that they have high demand and are extremely choosy. In admission to class 6th they asked for a bunch of documents, only to never get back to us. We kept on waiting patiently till December 24, but nothing. Then came January, suddenly, pop up came about Narayana school, New Town. I casually contacted them, and they said they can take her!!! It was a CBSE school, and I heard only good things about the school, so some part of me was really happy. Coincidentally, we have an apartment in New Town, and the tenant left the house. So, it was easy to think that we can move into our own apartment that is barely 2.5 kms from Narayana School.
However, I was sick and worried. Reasons: The distance between our apartment and my office is approximately 23 kilometres. So, I have to travel to the office daily, commuting 23 kilometres one way, fighting traffic, pollution and spending nearly 3-4 hours in commute. The effects of all of these have on my physical and mental health. How to maintain office hours. Whether we will get a good cook and a maid who is reliable. Most importantly, whether my child will be able to adjust to a new school, whether she will make new friends in our residential complex and so on.
The other worry I had was whether all our belongings would fit into the new house, knowing that the official quarters are much larger than our own apartment. Whether all my plants will fit into the place. Whether my daughter will find a good tuition teacher or not. She is afraid of lifts, so she has to climb one more flight of stairs. Whether the school bus will pick her from our gate or not. When she is dropped someone has to be there to receive her. I will not be able to come home on short notice. These were some of my worries that hunted me as we navigated through the school admission procedure.
She got admitted to a new school, now we are 9 months in our new apartment, and all my worries were found to be just invalid. We could manage things beautifully. Not to mention, all my plants found a home, and more were also added. We have mosquito nets on the windows protecting us throughout the evening. Daughter has made friends, joined tuition, yoga and dance classes in the community. My travel times also streamlined with uber the saviour of the day. I reach every day around 9.30 am and leave by 7 PM. I managed to do meditation in the cab and slowly added new routines. In the evening, I spend about 30 mins in the call to my mother who stays alone in Bhubaneswar. Then I binge in netflix shows. I just completed the Big Bang theory. In the morning I also listen to audio books through audibles. In some good days, I even go for an hour walk in the surroundings.
My daughter is now comfortable in her school, and the icing in the cake is she can manage to come home by herself. She also stays by herself sometimes when necessary. The icing in the cake is she got 85% in maths. That is the joy of our life. In addition, we have a trust worthy help, quite punctual. So, overall, life is better than the previous dwelling. The fear and anxiety was really unfounded.
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