Perpetual critiques

Disclaimer: I have decided to use my iPad as a medium for social media, untill I find other more useful usages of it. While cooking I thought let me use my iPad for writing this blog, so please excuse typos. While growing up, I felt really good criticizing people - No it has not stopped there, I still do that but the intensity and frequency has gone down significantly. Although I still criticize people, but somehow developed a disliking for people who are constantly complaining about situations people etc. I am not sure if this is a good sign or a bad sign. So I kind of decided to blog about such behavior. Husband of a very dear friend of mine is severely critical about everyone. He starts with complaints about people, their IQ, their behavior and everything. I have hardly seen him appreciating anyone as such. So I wonder if he ever finds any action of any individual worth his grain. Why does it happen in the first place? Let me give you my own example. When I was doing that(that is during my teens so may I be forgiven?), I used to immediately feel good about myself. The sense that, I am not like anything that I am criticizing about, re-assured me about myself that I am better and left me feeling good. But then was I really unsure about my being good? Well, I guess that was the reason, I have to re-assured that I am good, because I am not sure about myself. Deep down I have a fear that I am after all bad in that department,so I have to constantly remind me that I am good and so I end up criticizing. So for every criticism, there is a sense of insecurity, frustration, inferiority complex. Successful people never brag about themselves or their success, but the ones not sure about their well being constantly brag about it. Someone's that has no good publication will talk about papers all the time. Someone not doing good in job will constantly tell how good he is at work. Someone not sure about his own IQ constantly complains about other people completely lacking it. Someone not surE about their looks will criticize about how bad others look like and so on. If you were really a good person, always the good things about another person's character will come in front of you. You will be embarrassed about discussing bad things about another soul. If you were truly successful, you will be embarrassed in discussing about your own success, if you were good looking, you will be embarrassed if someone tells how good you look like. So this is for today. Before judging someone, just look inside and find the true cause behind it. If you find any of the causes I have written above is your real motivation, then refrain from doing that. Sister shivani says that thinking consciously is meditation. So by meditating our thoughts only we can become worthy individuals. Pe